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Geplaatst op 26 januari, 2016 om 9:05

VERLIES

Zelfs als de zon buiten schijnt gebeuren er vreselijke dingen. Hoe kan de wereld doorgaan, de zon schijnen en mensen lachen als je eigen wereld stilstaat.

FILM

Je ziet alles in slow motion om je heen doorgaan en je hebt het gevoel naar een film te kijken. Met je hand raak je het scherm aan en besef je dat dit onderdeel is van jou leven. Dat je dit nu in werkelijkheid meemaakt. Dit verschijnsel heet shock. Ook al heb je het gevoel in een slecht B-film mee te spelen, het echte leven kan vele malen wreder zijn.

LEVEN

Het doet mij verstillen van binnen. Het verlies van een relatie, na zoveel jaar uit elkaar gaan en er langzaam achter komen dat een deel van die jaren gebaseerd is op .. lucht. Het verlies van een ongeboren kind wat zo ontzettend gewenst is. Maar ook mensen die sterven na een lang gelukkig vervuld leven en je zo bewust maken van je eigen sterfelijkheid. Mensen die je lief zijn, en ook ongeneeslijk ziek. Mensen die de druk van alledag maar moeilijk een plek kunnen geven en moeten vechten om zich staande te houden. Maar ook een vriendin die haar partner wegbrengt na en plotselinge dood en nu weduwe is op 42 jarige leeftijd. Zomaar een handje vol verhalen die horen bij het leven, waarbij je moet leren schakelen naar een andere versnelling. Waarbij je een nieuw wiel moet uitvinden. Iets wat je nog niet eerder bij de hand hebt gehad.

ADEMHALEN. Buiten het verdriet en het rouwproces dat alle kanten op kan schieten, voel ik een rust over mij neerdalen. Een dankbaar gevoel maakt zich van mij meester. Midden in het geweld van alles wat stukgegooid en gemaakt wordt voel ik de stilte. Van enkel ademhalen. Zijn. Wat meer kunnen we doen. De situatie veranderen gaat niet. Behalve kijken naar wat zich voor je ontvouwt.

WAAROM 

Soms gebeuren er vreselijke dingen, waarvan je de bedoeling totaal ontgaat. Je stikt in het verdriet, en je emoties maken dat je dat je niet meer in staat bent om in contact te staan met jezelf. Je beeld van de wereld en jezelf is vertroebelt. Hoe kun je verder komen? Neem de tijd om je gevoelens en gedachten een plek te geven. Voel wat goed is voor jou, wees lief voor jezelf( onderschat deze stap niet!)

Meestal is het makkelijk aan te geven wat er mis is gegaan, probeer eens te kijken naar de waardevolle dingen die je eromheen ervaren hebt. Misschien kreeg je steun van iemand, waarvan je het totaal niet verwachtte. Of voel je nu wat echt belangrijk is voor je.

Ga door het rouwproces, zonder of liever nog met hulp! Wees niet te trots, trauma’s zijn ernstig en kunnen verholpen worden vanuit zoveel verschillende bronnen. Misschien helpt bij jou wel EFT of EMDR (dit zijn technieken waarbij een trauma wordt geneutraliseerd), acupunctuur, antroposofische fysiotherapie enzovoort.

PRAAT!

 e zult versteld staan van de hulp en steun je uit onverwachte hoek krijgt! Het helpt je last te verlichten. Praten met vrienden, een medium, psycholoog etc. zij kunnen je helpen in je bewustwordingsproces. Je leert een ander pad bewandelen. En maak je als mens een groei door waardoor je weer een stap dichter bij je zelf komt

 

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